My name is Kiran Singh. And this is my Sattva Story.
I was not supposed to end up here. Not in the UK. Not building organisations. Not writing about midlife and menopause and the particular, layered complexity of being a South Asian woman navigating the second half of her life. Not sitting across from women, virtually, in community spaces, in quiet corners of the internet, and saying the thing that most of us were never told: you are allowed to want more than this.
But life has a way of taking you exactly where you need to go, even when the route looks nothing like you planned.
I was born and raised in Norway, the daughter of Indian parents who carried their culture, their faith, and their expectations across continents and into a Scandinavian life. I grew up between worlds, Punjabi at home, Norwegian everywhere else, navigating the particular identity tension that so many of us in the diaspora know. Not quite belonging fully to either. Translating yourself constantly. Learning early that certain things were simply not discussed.
Bodies. Health. The internal life of women. The cost of caregiving. The truth of what a marriage actually feels like from the inside.
Not discussed.
In my early twenties, I entered an arranged marriage that ended quickly. I became a single mother. I cared for my mother through ovarian cancer, sat with her, held her, watched the illness take pieces of her that never came back, and then I grieved her. I carried all of it the way South Asian women are taught to carry things. Quietly. Competently. Without burdening anyone.
And then, in 2008, I moved to the UK with my daughter. We arrived with little more than hope, determination, and a deep inner knowing that something needed to begin again.
It did not begin easily.
The recession hit. Work fell through. There was debt, isolation, and the particular exhaustion of rebuilding a life from the ground up in a country that didn’t yet feel like home. I studied, trained, worked, wrote, and survived. There were more setbacks than I had space to process. More reinventions than I had planned for.
But I kept going. Because that is what South Asian women do. We keep going. We cope. We hold it all together. We do not make a fuss. And for a long time, that capacity for endurance felt like strength.
It was only later, in my forties, when my body began to change, and my identity began to shift and the life I had built started to feel, quietly and unmistakably, like it no longer quite fit, that I began to question whether endurance alone was enough. Whether surviving was the same as living. Whether the strength I had spent decades building was protecting me, or simply preventing me from ever asking what I actually needed.
Midlife asked me a different question. Not “How do I get through this?” but “How do I want to live now?“
That question changed everything. It led me to myself. To the work I was always meant to do. To Midlife by Design: a platform, a philosophy, a space for women who are ready to stop living by default and start designing something more honest, more nourishing, more aligned.
And it led me to found The Sattva Collective CIC, the UK’s first community-led initiative dedicated to supporting South Asian women through midlife and menopause.
I founded it because I knew from my own experience what it costs a South Asian woman to navigate this transition without a space that truly understands her. Without language for what she is going through. Without a community that reflects her specific cultural reality back at her.
I founded it with my daughter Khushi as Co-Director because, to me, legacy means building something that outlasts you. Something you pass between hands.
I am in my midlife now. Still in it. Still navigating it. My body has changed. My sense of myself has shifted. There are days when I feel more like myself than I ever have, and days when the grief and the complexity of this season press in close.
But I no longer carry it alone, and I no longer carry it in silence. That is the whole point.
Sattva: the Sanskrit word at the heart of everything I have built, speaks to clarity, purity, and balanced energy. The quiet centre that remains available beneath the noise of any season of life. I spent decades not knowing that the centre was mine to return to.
This organisation, this community, exists so that fewer South Asian women have to wait as long as I did to find their way back to it.
This is my Sattva Story. What is yours?
If you would like to share your story, we would be honoured to hear it. Drop me an email at hello@thesattvacollective.org, with the subject line: My Sattva Story #MySattvaStory
Kiran Singh is a multi-award-winning entrepreneur, Midlife Lifestyle & Menopause Wellness Coach, and the author of: From “What Now?” to “Watch Me!”: Midlife by Design, Not by Default. She’s the host of the Midlife by Design Podcast, the creator of Midlife by Design and the Founder & Director of The Sattva Collective CIC.
Kiransinghuk.com | Kiransinghuk.substack.com | Thesattvacollective.org | Thesattvacollectivecic.substack.com
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